In my last post (written far too long ago), I mentioned that our dining table doesn’t see as many long dinners and conversations as it used to. Well, all that changed in December! I’ve enjoyed a lot of table time over the past month — so much that I haven’t had time to write about it! Over the holidays we had my parents, Gary’s parents, Andy and Megan, Caitlyn and Tyler, Nicole, the Ragsdales, the Cowans and the Quades at our house. Then last week my Girls Night Out group came over for dinner (double bonus on that one — we used my house, but my friend Jen was actually the host and did all the cooking!)
So much good food. So many great conversations. So many memories.
I’ve figured out why gathering people around a table is so effective: we all look at each other.
Think about it. We can talk while we watch tv — but only a couple of people are looking at each other at any given time. Around a table — we’re all facing each other. We see each other as we talk and listen. I think that’s the key to the intimacy of the table. And admittedly, it’s sometimes the reason for a bit of awkwardness around the table. Eye contact is so important in conversation, and around the table you can easily see everyone.
I’ve come to appreciate “the table” so much, I recently asked Gary if we could move a small round oak table to our living room from the basement. He agreed (he’s so good about going along with my whims). We moved it up Friday evening and promptly had a backgammon tournament in front of the fire place. We talked, laughed, cried. (Okay, I didn’t really cry, but…backgammon is MY favorite game — we only play because I love it — but I can’t seem to beat Gary. What’s up with that?)
This table didn’t involve dinner, and yet, the intimate feeling was still there. For a time, we looked at each other, talked and had fun (except for the part about losing every.single.game.)
Please find a reason to gather with family or friends around a table. Soon. I think you’ll agree it is time well spent.